ऐसी खबरे नैतिकता और सामाजिक पतन के दायरे मे नहीं आती हैं , ये कुछ और चिंतन मांगती हैं ।

आज एक ख़बर हैं जिसे मे आप सब से जरुर बाटना चाहूंगी । ये खबर उन सब के लिये बहुत महत्व पूर्ण हैं जो माता पिता हैं २५ वर्ष से ऊपर की लड़कियों के । वो लड़किया तो पढी लिखी हैं और कमाती भी हैं ।
इस विषय मे पिछले हफ्ते केवल एक ब्लॉग पर ही कुछ पढने को मिला और उस ब्लॉग का लिंक यहाँ हैं ।

ख़बर इस लिंक पर हैं और उसका टेक्स्ट ये हैं । आप भी पढे और अगर लगे की आप को कुछ कहना हैं तो जरुर कहे

ऐसी खबरे नैतिकता और सामाजिक पतन के दायरे मे नहीं आती हैं , ये कुछ और चिंतन मांगती हैं । दोषारोपण नहीं अपितु अपने अंदर झाँक कर देखने की जरुरत हैं की क्या आप के घर मे भी कहीं ऐसा कुछ हो सकने की सम्भावना तो नहीं पनप रही हैं ।

Why ‘big girls’ struggle with meddlesome mums
Meenakshi Kumar | TNN



Sakshi Kapoor, the young schoolteacher who allegedly killed her mother a few days ago, is reported to have had a troubled relationship with her “meddlesome” parent. Sakshi may be the exception in her violent response to maternal control, but many Indian daughters struggle with it.
Clinical psychologist Sujatha Sharma says

India is extraordinary in that “a child remains a child to the parents, even if she turns 20 or 50। With daughters, mothers are more protective. They think it’s their right to monitor her every move because that’s the only way they can protect her”.{ भारत मे एक बच्चा { यहाँ लड़की } माँ पिता के लिये बच्चा ही बना रहता हैं चाहे वो २० का हो या ५० का । बेटियों के साथ माँ ज्यादा सुरक्षात्मक हो जाती हैं क्युकी उसको लगता हैं कीअपनी बेटी पर नस्ज़र रखना उसका अधिकार हैं और बेटी पर नज़र रख कर ही वो बेटी को सुरक्षा दे सकती हैं }

Sometimes, it becomes too intrusive, as is now so tragically recorded with Sakshi and her mother Kiran. Tensions can rise particularly in the case of relationships. Otherwise liberal Indian women can be particularly tough on their daughters “when it comes to the bank balance, bedroom (relationships) and the kitchen… girls want complete independence. That’s when conflict crops up,” says Harish Shetty, visiting psychiatrist at Mumbai’s Dr L H Hiranandani hospital.
Back in the sixties, actor Nutan dragged mother Shobhana Samarth, herself a successful actor, to court for misappropriation of funds. A few decades later, another successful actor, Sarika, walked out on her mother, accusing her of mistreatment and dishonesty.
The alleged “mistreatment” almost previews Sakshi’s anger at her mother. But in India, say experts, mothers believe they must protect their daughters’ morals because Indian girls are seen to uphold family honour or izzat. “If a girl is seen to violate the family’s izzat, it’s left to the mother to correct her. And since the mother refuses to treat her as a grown-up, the young lady gets rebuked or even beaten if she is difficult,” says sociologist Renu Adhlakha, senior fellow at Delhi’s Centre for Women’s Development Studies.

But psychologist Sharma discerns another, uglier tendency among Indian mothers. Women often feel powerful if they are able to control their children, particularly daughters. “They don’t have control over their husbands and are little respected throughout their life, so this is their way of showing that they too have control,” says Sharma.

She may have a point. Housewife R Seetha recalls her mother following her on a date and confronting her boyfriend. “It was very embarrassing. She scolded me in front of my boyfriend and even shouted at him. I was furious but could say nothing.” But Shetty says Indian mother-daughter relationship is becoming more beautiful with greater openness today than a generation ago. “I often tell parents that beating is cheaper, talking goes deeper. It is essential that mothers learn to discuss things with their daughters instead of shouting or beating,” he says.